Fathers and Newborn: Expectations vs. Reality

Fathers and newborn what do you really need to know about each other

Fathers get to know your Baby:

All babies are not the same however it seems as though many people think so.

Fathers are key to a child’s life. Fathers do need to realize that all babies are different and that they need to be respected and understood with a huge dose of TLC!

There seems to be this idea that you can use the same methods for raising and managing each child and if these methods don’t work than there is something wrong with your baby. No! You simply need to get to know your baby!

This takes time and patience. If you do this you will have a better understanding of your baby’s needs, personality and you will be laying a foundation of respect between yourself and your child.

Your baby will grow up to feel respected, understood, listened to. Your baby will learn to trust you with his/her feelings, needs, wants and soul.

One size does not fit all in parenting children. Nothing else in life is that easy why would dealing with a new soul be any different?

The Fathers and Newborn Mystery

Babies do communicate and they have feelings:

You need to wake up to what it means to have children and what children need.

Babies cry for a reason. To leave them locked up alone in a cage (crib), in the dark away from warmth and comfort as not to spoil your child seems cruel especially when I’ve heard stories of letting babies cry until they vomit in their own beds and left to sleep like that.

I’ll leave you alone to sleep in your vomit especially when you can’t help yourself and see if you would like me after this inhumane treatment!

Babies can’t help themselves. All they have is their voice and feelings to guide them. A baby who stops crying after so many nights of being left alone only learns “learned helplessness”.

I don’t know about you but I wouldn’t want to teach my baby to be helpless or vulnerable?

I am passionate about tuning into and getting to know your child. If your baby feels understood, they will understand themselves and not need to hide in drugs, alcohol, sex, addiction or other self-destructive or avoidant behaviours.

Parenting is an awesome experience and a position of responsibility and privilege. Take of yourself and your children and make therapy for your life part of your life experience.